When we play the right/wrong game with people we end up being hooked. We’ve got a nice little bit of land called being right and we don’t want it conquered. In fact, we’d like very much to conquer the land of the others’ rightness if possible. But when you let go, when you make the other person right, when you become willing to take a look and see how rightness doesn’t make you happy or open—just cold and grasping—you can let go.
You can find the rightness in what they are saying, you can be clear on your boundaries, you can do your work, and you can be free. Because when you step out of right and wrong, you also detach the hook.