Are you being selfish as a coach? Are you trying to “make everything okay” for your client? Wrap up each session with a bow, with some tidy resolution, a clear set of action items?
Trying to make everything okay for your client is incredibly selfish as a coach, and may lead to your client expecting you to fix everything, expecting you to do all the work, and even putting you on a pedestal.
The power of your insights and the client’s insights will last longer when you change this dynamic. Unprocessed stuff comes up in a session, and when we close that down for the client by always offering that wrap-up, we stunt their possibility, stunt their ability to be with the difficult stuff that comes up with transformation.
In this episode, Toku talks about “The Simmer” – an advanced technique that’s much like putting a cook-pot on the back burner to bubble, low and slow. The Simmer in coaching is letting the client simmer in the challenge, the breakdown, the possibility they are experiencing.
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See also the previous posts in this series:
The Open – Context, The Open – Agreements, The Open – Building Rapport, The Open – Bad Coach Distortion, The Open – Creating Awe
The Drop – What’s it All About?, The Drop – Zoomin’ In and Out, The Drop – Don’t Believe Your Clients, The Drop – The Right Place
The Shift – Creating the Shift, The Shift – The Reveal, The Shift – The Transform, The Shift – The Commit, The Shift – Ownership – Acceptance, The Shift – Where Does It Come From?, The Shift – Where Does It End?, The Shift – Knowing Where You’re Going, The Shift – Highlighting, The Shift – Letting Things Land, The Shift – Using Embodiment, The Shift – Facilitation vs. Depth, The Shift – Klaus & Inner Buddha, The Shift – Shifts with Context, The Shift – What’s Valuable?, The Shift – More than a Shift
The Close – What Is the Close?, The Close – Next Steps and Commitments, The Close – Reflection, The Close – Acknowledgement
