The Delusion of Unattachment
Somewhere along the way, we got this idea that being unattached is a sort of perfect ideal we should pursue. When in truth, pretending to be unattached is the doorway to delusion. Recently I was called out by a member of the Dojo because I joked that I didn’t want to give him a list […]
Will You Join Me?
(A Possible Prologue to a Future Coaching Book) The coaching industry is at a crossroads. In our hands is one of the most powerful pieces of technology created in the twentieth century. A tool with as much promise and possibility as the microchip or the discovery of antibiotics. And a tool that is so easy […]
Master Coaches Make Money
Over the past week, I’ve been deep in thought about the core marketing approach of the Dojo. And as I’ve pondered this I’ve been struck by a question: Are we serving coaches that want to be great— as in masterful at what they do? OR Are we serving coaches that want to be “successful”— […]
The #2 Best Way
The second best way for you to learn how to articulate something, to talk about something powerfully, to create a robust model of something, to feel confident in something, is to learn someone else’s language around it. To study how they talk about it, think about it, define it, and distinguish it. The best way […]
ODSC Framework #31 – The Close – The Simmer
Are you being selfish as a coach? Are you trying to “make everything okay” for your client? Wrap up each session with a bow, with some tidy resolution, a clear set of action items? Trying to make everything okay for your client is incredibly selfish as a coach, and may lead to your client expecting […]
ODSC Framework #30 – The Close – Acknowledgement
Is your client blind to their own achievement? Constantly thinking they’re not accomplishing enough in your work together? Thinking they’re not enough, and by extension, that you are not enough as coach? The truth is, we humans are generally HORRIBLE at assessing how much we’ve grown. And that blindness to how much they’ve accomplished in […]
Bed Bugs and Commitment
This past Saturday we returned from a short trip to discover we have bed bugs. Which (as Christina says) is kind of like finding out your house has an STD. The process we’ve endured since and will likely endure for a few days more has reminded me of the danger of sunk costs and the […]
Marketing and Mastery: Interview with Greg Faxon
Toku sat down with fellow coach and marketing master Greg Faxon for a jam on mastery, marketing, and more! Here are just a few of the topics they cover in their wide-ranging conversation: The Myth of the Undercover Coach “Marketing can be an act of love” – Marketing as Service How Marketing is like Exercise […]
Ego Strength, and the decision on coaching or counseling
Have you wondered where the line is for a client needing coaching, versus needing counseling? In this special episode, Jesse Johnson, coach and licensed counselor, explains the concept of Ego Strength and how you might use it to determine whether or not you coach a particular client or refer them to a counselor.
ODSC Framework #29 – The Close – Reflection
Another challenge you may be encountering with your client is that between sessions, they “twist the work” in some way (thanks to Bay LeBlanc Quiney for this phrasing)… you thought the session went great, but they come back believing the session wasn’t powerful, or they’re confused, or they fall apart the next day… In this […]